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In 1987 my brother Toby was involved in an horrific R.T.A (road traffic accident) which left him "doubly brain-damaged and in a 'coma'. Apparently he wasn't expected to survive more than 24 hours. But to the amazement of the medical staff Toby pulled through and my parents took him home, after only 17 weeks, where he resided for the next 15 years. We as a family worked on a rota system so that Toby had 24 hour care.
My parents spent 5 years fighting Cardiff City Council and Metro Taxis for compensation, as the accident was not Toby's fault, sadly my father died 1 year before the award was paid out. The Court of Protection became involved, as a matter of course, because the award was so high, namely £275,000.
In 2002 my mother died, at the time Toby was in the Heath Hospital recovering from a chest infection. This where the problem really started. If Toby was ever admitted to hospital my mother would take him home as soon as he had recovered. The medical team dealing with Toby decided that, due to family disharmony, Toby should be moved to Rookwood Hospital to recouperate, while plans for his future were decided. THIS IS WHERE TOBY STAYED FOR THE REMAINDER OF HIS LIFE!! See 'Photograghic Evidence' page.
This story is about my struggle to have Toby moved to a specialised nursing facility and the people I had to approach to help me do this. These people had the power to change my brothers' life but, in turn, chose not to!! WE PLAN TO 'NAME AND SHAME' ALL INVOLVED and we shall be printing all correspondances undertaken during this time. Also we plan to print photographic evidence of the neglect that Toby had to endure in the last years of his life.
Sadly Toby passed away on 8th November 2006 R.I.P, at the time of his death Toby's estate had grown to over £600,000. Do you really think that if Toby was in control of all his faculties he would have chosen to reside on the ward of a grotty, understaffed, NHS hospital, or in the comfort of his own room in a private home which was staffed to the highest possible standards?
IT MAYBE TO LATE TO HELP TOBY BUT, WITH HELP AND ADVICE, IT MAY NOT BE TO LATE FOR YOUR RELATIVE OR FRIEND. IF YOU DON'T FIGHT FOR THEM WHO WILL?!!!
Whilst typing up this introduction I received a phone call from Ruth., after a friend had warned her that a libel suit could be bought against us. I am under the impression that someone can only be accused of 'libel' if they are telling lies about that person, whereas we will actually be telling the truth! After much debate we have decided to take legal advice before printing Ruth's story.
WE WOULD LIKE TO POINT OUT THAT IN NO WAY DO WE WISH TO BE MALICIOUS, SLANDEROUS OR DEFAMATORY ABOUT ANY PERSON OR FACILITY THAT WILL BE NAMED. WE ARE JUST RELATING, IN THE STORY, THE FACTS AS THEY HAPPENED.
As soon as we know our position on this matter we that put the publication of the story on hold, plus it isn't quite finished anyway lol. as an after thought I decided to look up the actual meanings of the words libel, slander and defamation. below are the definitions, as quoted from the 'English Dictionary'.
DEFAMATION : "the act of injuring someones good name and reputation without justification; either morally or in writing...."
SLANDER : "false and malicious statement about another..."
LIBEL : "any written or printed matter tending to injure a person's reputation unjustly..."
In the meantime if anyone out there wishes to share their experiences please feel free to do so on our comments page. Also any feedback about the site or our cause would be gratfully appreciated. Plus I have almost ran out of room on this page and need to suss out how to continue onto another one lol.
so for now it is goodbye, but rest assured you will be hearing from us soon. Thankyou and goodnight as it is now 2.20am and i'm knackered. I had to write this intro twice as I somehow lost the first draft 'doh'.
